The hardest part of going through the abuse was to wake up and realise the effects that it had on my children. His family always had a favourite grandchild and my daughter was left out, which left her always fighting for a spot and left my children competing with each other. They we’re also used to abuse in the house so they started acting out at me and at each other, when I say act out I mean like flinging toys n books downstairs kicking and punching me, I managed to stop this behaviour by showing empathy and understanding, a lot of people say they just need a smack!! in my experience this just encourages abuse and encourages them to hit back. They still give me the occasional smart remark or try and embarrass me when we are out but I have worked on my inner self so I am no longer embarrassed or have to reply to the remarks. I would love to help people heal, the more we heal the more we heal our children.